Pinterest and I are frenemies…meaning I have a love/hate relationship with Pinterest. I will referrer to Pinterest now as “her/she.” On one hand, I love using her as a source of inspiration. I love seeing the creativeness of other wedding designers. I love being able to see all the bridal trends in basically one swipe of a mouse.
However, on the other hand I despise her. I despise her for giving brides a false sense of “you know what I can create 250 wedding favors for my wedding day!” mentality. It takes a special woman to be a DIY Bride. A special woman who is organized, has time, and the resources to plan such an event. Pinterest makes it seem fun and easy to stay up till all hours of the night with numb fingers from using your hot glue gun. What most people don’t understand about these glorious pins is that nine times out of 10, these pins are styled photo shoot. Styled photo shoots are put together and designed by professionals. Or the DIY-er was a professional herself or has a close friend who was a professional. I recently clicked on a DIY pin that was labeled “Learn How to Easily Make Your Own Save-The-Date Magnets.” When I read the blog the writer mentioned that her friend was a graphic designer. Well, that certainly makes it easier to create because her friend is a professional. Trust me however, when I say the steps were not easy.
I recently had a bride tell me a story about a time she PASSED OUT during the ceremony when she was a bridesmaid. She stayed up till 5 in the morning helping the bride finish her centerpieces…the night BEFORE the wedding.
This inspired me for this weeks Friday’s Five. Five Items Brides Should Leave to the Professionals.
With so many online sources, it can seem super easy to plan your own wedding. You have every checklist you can imagine, you have your family and friends lined up to help, and you have everything organized and typed into your agenda. Sounds like you are ready to start planning! Easy right?! Hiring a planner for the full planning process or just someone to come in a month before can make the difference in having an organized, thoughtful, and cohesive wedding or chaotic, unorganized, and somewhat sloppy wedding day. At Southern Sparkle, we pride ourselves on being extremely detailed orientated. We create a detailed itinerary to ensure that everyone knows their responsibility for the wedding day. We also have a great relationship with professional vendors to guarantee your wedding day runs smoothly. Not only that, but our great relationship with these vendors allows us to work with and maximize your budget. A professional planner vows that the wedding will look as good if not better in real life, as it does in your head. Not only that, but hiring a professional planner allows you to enjoy the day stress free.
This day in age everyone has a top quality camera. With everyone having a “nice” camera and access to online editing tutorial, you may thing having your cousin take your wedding photos seems like the smart choice. This is where you are wrong. I am a firm believer on not only investing in an amazing photographer, but splurging on one. There are so many qualities that set a professional apart for Uncle Bob with a nice camera who volunteered to photograph your wedding. First, a good photographer understands lighting. Understand the importance of lighting can make the difference in being able to see the lace details of your dress or not casting a shadow on your face during your first husband/wife kiss. Also, hiring a professional means that you are guaranteed they will do their job. I heard a horror story from a friend who was recently a bridesmaid in a wedding. The bride hired her “friend” to photograph the wedding. She photographed the ceremony but didn’t show up for the reception! She said she was tired and hungry and just left. So the poor bride had no photos of her first dance, no photos of her dancing with her father, and no photos of all the gorgeous decorations. That story alone should convince you to hire a professional photographer.
I love the idea of having food that is meaningful and special to a couple and their families, but instead of your mom making your favorite macaroni and cheese, consider handing over some of your favorite recipes or having your menu created around these. A professional will know how to properly estimate the amount of food to buy and how to prepare a meal on a large scale and how to combine you and your groom’s tastes into a cohesive menu. If you’re looking to save money, consider skipping the full meal and opt for a cocktail party-style reception instead, where tasty drinks and heavy hors d’oeuvres are flowing the entire time. I put emphasis on heavy, cause I hate when a wedding guest leaves hungry. Professional caterers will also have lots of ideas on ways to save on your food budget. Not to mention if you or your family members are the ones making all the food… preparing, transporting, and setting food for 100 or so guests in the days leading up to your wedding will just add to your stress and outweigh any cost/benefit you might be thinking of.
Maybe you saw some “simple” mason jar centerpieces on Pinterest and thought to yourself, “Hey, I can do that myself!” But doing your own wedding flowers is a lot more complicated than it seems. Since blooms are perishable, you’ll need to time the flower delivery so that they arrive shortly before the wedding, leaving you only a day — sometimes even hours — to arrange everything. That’s precious time better spent getting your nails done with your bridesmaids and relaxing with your family. Also, any good florist can deliver beautiful arrangements at a reasonable price and can work within your budget.
This one cane be a tough one for some brides to understand. Music is cheap, and with portable speakers, iPods, and DJ apps, this seems like an easy item to DIY since it can be a big budget saver. The big difference is that a band or DJ adds more to your wedding than just some of your favorite dance tunes- they add a layer of warmth, personality, and hospitality to your wedding. They are in tune with the energy and mood of the party, and play accordingly. A good musician or DJ sets the pace for the event in ways that no other vendor can. They also set the timeline of events for the wedding. They work closely with all your other wedding vendors to make sure the reception is running smoothly and on time. Working with the other professionals guarantees you get the shots of you dancing with your father, cutting the cake, and even down to tossing your bouquet (All the single ladies instantly came to mind). Considering all of these things, it’s pretty clear that an iPod will just fall short.
Back to my love for Pinterest (see I told you it was a love/hate relationship). There are certain items you can do it yourself. Your sign for guest to sign the guest book; your photo booth backdrop; the Mr. and Mrs. sign to hang on your chairs. These items are fun to create and easy to personalize into something special. I love seeing personal touches that display the bride and groom’s personalities.
Just know that when you decide to take on the task of some of the wedding items, dedicate the time and energy to make sure you aren’t running around like crazy on your wedding day. If you are recently engaged and need help with making sure your wedding day is stress free, contact The Sparkle Team today!